About the book

What do we truly want—and how much of our lives do we actually choose?

In Seek and Find, Sauro Tronconi explores the unease that can arise when familiar answers no longer satisfy us. Drawing on the Fourth Way, humanistic psychology, philosophy and spiritual traditions, he asks how we can recognise the automatic patterns that govern our lives and begin to act with greater awareness.

Across seven chapters, the search moves from conflicting desires and the fear of change to the responsibility of choosing for ourselves. Tronconi considers self-observation, the inner buffers that conceal our contradictions, the sacred in everyday experience, and the role of myths and rituals in the growth of consciousness.

The image of “eating the Moon” opens a reflection on mechanical behaviour and the work required to awaken. Later chapters explore attention, will and the possibility of bringing body, emotions and thought into a more coherent relationship.

Written for readers interested in inner work and a spirituality grounded in lived experience, this book offers questions and reflections to accompany a personal search. It invites us to look beneath habit, listen to our restlessness and discover what it means to live—and choose—more consciously.

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From the introduction

Have you ever wondered why you often do not really know what you want? Why you sometimes feel pulled by one desire and then, a moment later, by its complete opposite, as though many different personalities lived inside you, constantly at war with one another? This sense of inner division, this subtle yet persistent fragmentation, is not simply a personal impression: it touches something deep in human nature, a widespread phenomenon that prevents us from seeing clearly where our lives are going.

In everyday life, we all experience inner conflicts. We have thoughts, emotions, needs and desires that often contradict one another, and instead of facing them directly, we unconsciously choose to ignore them. To protect ourselves from the pain of feeling them all at once, we construct small psychological ‘buffers’ that allow us to live within a reassuring illusion of consistency. These buffers certainly make life easier, because they spare us immediate friction and pain, but at the same time they keep us deeply asleep, trapped in the repetition of ready-made patterns and ideas inherited from others.

Living this way, without realising it, we forget who we really are and, above all, what we truly want. Our authentic desires and our true aspirations remain hidden behind fragmented desires and illusions born of fear and convention. We thus become passive spectators of a life that does not feel wholly our own, buffeted by conflicting emotions, unable to make authentic choices or clear decisions.

Other editions: Cerca Trova — Italiano · Busca y encuentra — Español

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